Walk a mile in your horses horseshoes is what Troy Henry and Tom Dorrance tried to get me to understand! Showing a horse who is boss was an easy concept for me to grasp as a young man. I loved horses and I loved the notion of being a good enough cowboy to make horses do what I wanted whether it was halter breaking a young horse, riding them for the first time , getting them to stop or turn quickly, rope a cow, or any other ranch duties. I found out quickly that if I stayed focused and worked really hard I could out-fumble most any horse, this is what I now call ” Young Man’s Disease.” You may have heard me use that term a lot lately and my intention is to help other young men realize that they don’t have to go through that process like I did.
It is true, to be really good with young horses one should be as confident as a lion tamer, as good a rider as a rodeo hand, as strategic as a CEO of a corporation, as mentally aware as a psychoanalyst, but one should lead with compassion, skills and TRUE HORSEMANSHIP KNOWLEDGE!
When I talk about “Young Man’s Disease” I am not pointing any fingers because I have been there, done that and bought the tee shirt, besides I don’t have to point any fingers, the whole world is there to see it and see the difference in many cases. Humans know what is right in their hearts when they take the time to feel it.
I grew up using words like ‘break’ and ‘train’. Everyone used them and nobody thought any different, note the word THOUGHT. I knew what I meant so what is in a word anyway? Then enters a real horseman named Troy Henry into my life and he pins me down one day after I had been giving a lesson to one of our students. He had heard me encouraging her get her horse moving more forward in the round corral, I kept on saying “make him do it , come on make him do it”. After the student left he came over to me all red in the face, I knew I was in big trouble but for what I didn’t know.
He really let me have it! He blew like a top! He said “If I ever hear you say that again you’re out of here!” At first I thought I must have used a swear word but that wasn’t it,… so I said please tell me what word I should never say again. He smiled and said “MAKE”, never say MAKE or LET. When I asked him what should I use he replied CAUSE and ALLOW, and while you are at it never say Break or Train again either, use the words START and DEVELOP as in START A RELATIONSHIP and DEVELOP A PARTNERSHIP this was the first big philosophical differentiation that I can remember about horsemanship. As you might well imagine this was a defining moment for me!
Maturity does not happen overnight and slowly but surely my approach started to change. One thing I know for sure, horses are like people in at least one way. They do not care how much you know until they know how much you CARE.
Shortly after Troy Henry passed away Tom Dorrance came into my life, he started to share the idea that colt starting, like horsemanship was truly an ART. Colt starting is not something you do to a young horse it is rather something you do with him and for him.
I had just moved from Clovis Ca. To Clements about 3 hours north. The sign in front of my property read ” Parelli Horse Ranch, the Foundation Station Specializing in The Lost Art of Starting Horses” This was in the early 80′s we were starting over 300 horses a year. These were the days that I got a lot of tutelage from both Tom Dorrance and Ronnie Willis on a regular basis and I would host a Ray Hunt Clinic at least once a year and ride in 2 or 3 on top of that.
This was a great opportunity to learn at an accelerated rate, I could not get enough information and experience to fill my appetite but I sure was trying!
Ronnie Willis helped me with my first colt starting clinic. We started 22 horses in 5 days and had all the owners riding them by the end. This was big fun so I started putting on clinics almost every week and had between 20 and 30 horses most every time. The challenge was not usually the horses but rather the people, mostly because they were not experienced enough with young horses. These were the days I really learned a lot about horsenalities and the different approaches that one might take. After every horse that I started I usually found myself pleased but not satisfied so this is where I learned ” Good Better Best, Never Let it Rest, Get Your Good Better and Your Better BEST!”
So how can one tell if someone is starting a colt or breaking one?
The frame work I use is, if the dam of the horse you are starting was watching the session and approved then maybe your doing OK. If you or the horse are sweating profusely and there is a lot of dust and commotion then maybe one is working harder and not smarter, this might give us some clues as to what we are observing.
Don’t let techniques like round penning fool you, in fact I think one of the most common mistakes most people do is start by sending the horse around the round corral to get respect instead of giving the horse a moment to decide if you are friend or foe. This often creates the horse’s perception that he must defend himself and then he uses up unnecessary energy through self preservation.
Another common mistake is to try and desensitize the horse by sacking him out and over exposing to too many different things to quickly like throwing the lead rope at him over and over again rather than build confidence by exposing the horse to different things or situations at a rate that their confidence and curiosity can handle. Keep this in mind – we all want our horses to be a blend of CALM, SMART, BRAVE and ATHLETIC and the way to get this result is by creating a provocative learning environment where we never loose a Horse’s Confidence, Curiosity and Sensitivity so that he continues to become more and more responsive. In other words starting creates PARTNERSHIPS and BREAKING is the first step to LEARNED HELPLESSNESS.
I recently had the privilege of sharing my approach to colt starting at ” The Road to the Horse ” in Tennessee on February of 2011. I hope this blog will help you understand at an even deeper level what I was trying to share. The teachings of my mentors and the learning of me as a student. I hope came across clearly.
The most rewarding thing that happened for me at the ” Road to the Horse ” was not what happened in the arena or any compliment that any one gave me then or since but what happened the next morning.
As many of you know, after the first session Linda and I decided to buy the colt I was starting. In the second session I started calling him “Partner.” In the final session we had a great feeling together but it wasn’t until the next morning when I went to the corral where all the colts were being kept for the weekend, when I made eye contact with him in the corral he nickered and walked through 10 other horses and met me at the gate, wanted a scratch, stuck his head in the halter and followed me with extreme confidence. Then was the moment I knew all my teachers were watching and nodding with approval.
On the way home Linda and I discussed changing Partner’s name after a student suggested we should call him Troubadour because there was a song playing in the final session by George Strait called “Troubadour.” That’s how we gave him his name. He was bred at the 6666 Ranch in Guthrie TX. His Registered name is “Hey Whiskey” because his Sire’s name is “Paddy’s Irish Whiskey.”
One last note: When I refer to Colt Starting, I am referring to young horses not colts (as in un-castrated young male horses). One time I had a colt starting clinic with only young stallions and on the second day someone asked why I didn’t let students bring Fillies, so I just wanted to be clear.
Keep it Natural
Pat Parelli





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Pat, Thank you for being a share-a-holic! Would you be so kind as to blog about imprinting.
Shared this blog with some non-Parelli types in my barn, both of who have new colts to start…one stallion and one filly.
The filly’s partner is a natural with horses, has trained Saddlebreds since young. He’s says you just have to watch what they are telling you and be patient. While he uses traditional methods, he’s alway been kind yet firm with his horses. I bought my horse from him. All his horses are good natured, smart but ramped up as show horses. My horse performed but had no confidence so many deemed him scary and undependable. I took the time it takes…and he’s now a more confident LBE. The former owner is amazed my horse seems to understand what I say:-). He watches Parelli videos I bring him and accepted a rope halter for his filly as a birthday present. He’s seen the results and is open to trying new ways. It’s exciting.
The other man just pulls his appy stud around and yells at him to behave. He did read this blog and said he was going to look up Parelli.com. He liked, “horses don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care” part
There’s hope.
Thanks so much for writing this blog post. I explain things to my mostly non-Parelli barn but it always sound better when it comes staight from the horses mouth:-)
Pat, reading your blog just made me cry! In a good way. The way you ALLOW a horse to keep its dignity and CAUSE him to want to be with you never ceases to amaze me.
Natural Horsemanship the Parelli way for me!
“Humans know what is right in their hearts when they take the time to feel it.” My favorite sentence in this awesome blog….
Petra Christensen
Parelli 2Star Junior Instructor
Parelli Central
Proud to say that my Pip was “started” by an Old L3 grad and friend, Ron Derksen
He had the best start via Love, Language and Leadership – NO regrets and I proudly state he was “started by …”
Pat:
Often when I hear you speak (or write) I am reminded of my relationships with my students. I teach in an inner-city school to high school teenagers with emotional behavior disabilities. Stepping in their shoes, understanding where they are coming from, putting the relationship first, not using force and instilling a sense of acceptance, these are the attitudes I find are essential to a productive learning environment. I feel it is comforting to know how much we (horses and humans) are alike, in spite of our differences.
By the way, talking about language: I am glad to see that fewer and fewer people refer to animals as “it”. I believe that as much as attitude form words, I also believe words form attitude.
Hey Pat – this is a great blog piece and I relate to the young mans disease only it isn’t gender specific….I had that disease as a young woman! Thanks for your excellent leadership and looking forward to seeing you in the UK NEC very soon
Cathy
I was at Road To The Horse. Pat was dancing ballet to beautiful music while the others where wrestling.
Hey Pat.
Great read & was awesome to watch the clips from “the road to the horse”. I for sure early on had “young mans disease” As an equine physio being up close & very personal there was no place for it. You have helped me no end in being able to read the “horseanilty” very quickly & most importantly adjust my energy to “passive assertive” & the achievements this has given me in being able to deal with “craZed” race horses has been remarkable. Every day I go to stables where as I enter the box the staff will say “good luck!” when they come by minutes later & the horse has his head tucked under my arm or me right in the “kill zone” adjusting hips or stretching hind legs they just shake there head & laugh & say another “Touched by Savvy” & I always walk out asking “would Pat be proud”.
I truly believe that all of your Parelli-isms are felt by our horses when they are in our heart…and the fact that you we’re already feeling that he was your Partner made all the difference. Being able to express/ show and prove your love to a horse in private is one thing but to do it in public is another… you can’t fake it with a horse….
I’m so pleased you have a LBE to play and share with it’s going to be soo much fun! xx
Pat,
Wondergul, thanks for sharing.
Brought tears to my eyes.
Glad Troubador found a partner in you.
Carol
Ii had the priviledge of attending RTTH this year. If the dummies didn’t get it, there was one real horseman there, and it was quite apparent. There were two clinicians there as well. BUT ONE HORSEMAN…AND 1 lucky horse. (the singer)
Fantastic blog post… this example of leadership rings true in so many areas of life!
¬Kerrin
Very interesting posting Pat. Thanks for sharing.
Beautiful. It is such a great pleasure to read this blog from Pat. It re-iterates all that is to be “Natural” and in what we each strive to be the best for the horse and for ourselves. It is with utmost gratitude and appreciation I write to say “Thank You” for being the Master that you truely are and seeing the results so recently with “Trubador” is priceless. With great admiration, I am a proud and continual student of Parelli Natural Horsemanship…
One of the most profound things I have ever read. You masterfully and succinctly nailed it. Thank you for being the type of person that never stops learning, that values your predecessors, and shares endlessly and tirelessly with others.
You changed my whole life and continue to do so.
Robbin
Dear Pat,
Wouldn’t it be a wonderful world if we all thought about cause and allow, instead of make or let? I sat front and center at Road to the Horse quite close to the folks from Atwood and one section over from the reining trainer from Japan. I was mortified and saddened at what some of the humans at that event cheered for, but I was never so proud to wear the Parelli logo as I was when you finished your obstacle course. I had tears streaming down my face and learned so much from you that weekend. I’m so thankful I was able to go and they mixed up my seat so I got to sit right up front.
Your flag came off right in front of me. I loved the look on your face when it happened, a short surprise and how interesting and then you were on your way, not much phases you, you’re amazing. Wish I knew how to get one of those retractable poles you use, I hopped over into the arena and grabbed your flag when the event was over and have been trying to figure out how to make a long flag like the one you use. My girls are so thrilled that they get to have Pat Parelli’s flag.
Pat, You and Linda are amazing! You have both changed my life with horses and humans. You are so generous sharing what you have learnt and making it available to whoever wants to listen. I am forever grateful. Cheers to never ending self improvement.
Pat, I’ve been around horses for almost 40 years now and have done and seen much with them. My wife of 39 years now is very committed to natural horsemanship since the time I started courting her as a young lady. Often times I see the rudeness of our herd we call “pecking order” I am not so convinced as others about spirit of a horse for they I believe they do not feel remorse. Although I am kind to our herd. At the RTTH I saw the colt you were helping hug you and commented about my thoughts of sarcasm. Then when we returned home, our two yearlings briskly came over to me, wraped their heads and necks around me at the same times and hugged me as your colt hugged you. I let everone that was with us know about what happened with my colts and said I need to apologize to Pat about my comments. Therefore, “I am sorry about my comments” and I indeed saw what you were doing with your horse at the RTTH. Well done! James Berry
Congratulations James. You have touched & been touched by the soul of a horse. Sounds like your world will be different from now on.
Thank you, Pat. There’s so much I could say but the others have already said it so nicely. Thank you so much.
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