Denyse Rousselet sent us this account of finding her Left-Brain Extrovert mare, Sweet Indiana, at the Cardinal Ranch in Canada. Sometimes the perfect horse/human partnerships just fall into place! We hope you enjoy this blog.
Having owned two horses, my first an Appaloosa mare and later on a Dutch Warmblood gelding who was retired at 25, I was debating on getting another one for a few reasons. It was partly a financial issue, as my retired horse was still there, and at 63 years of age, I figured I might not be able to care for a young horse for all of its life. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to buy an older horse, as I could end up with two retired horses in a few short years. However, I knew that I surely would not get another horse if I waited any longer; it seemed that it was NOW OR NEVER. So I had to think “young safe horse.” Quite the challenge!
In January 2010, while searching for a safe place to ride in the Canadian Rockies, I fell upon the Cardinal Ranch and read the info on their website quite carefully. Top rated 4-Star Parelli instructor Don Halladay was giving an 8-day clinic in June. I called the ranch, talked to the owner, and registered for that clinic. What a clinic. What a ranch! I was totally amazed at their horses, 4- and 5-year-olds that were like seasoned horses and very calm, confident and emotionally collected. I have been convinced for many years that natural horsemanship was the way to go but how rewarding when one sees the effects of this training when it is done from the start and not as corrective means of re-training. I had the privilege to have two different horses in that clinic, as the first was sold during that time. The two horses were both impressive and although I was not in the buying “mode,” I did not forget about that wonderful feeling and experience and planned to attend another clinic in 2011. What impressed me the most was how respectful the Cardinals were with their horses, all the while being very effective and respected; there was a spiritual connection between them and their horses: very inspiring!
Last winter, a good friend lost her 21-year-old horse, her first horse; she was very upset and somewhat reluctant to start with another horse at the age of 58; confidence at this time in our life is not as good as it was in previous years. 9 months later, she made the decision not to buy again and gave all her horse blankets to friends. Being of similar age and circumstance, I decided that it was time for me to make the move and not wait for my retired horse to go; by then, I would most certainly never get another horse. The time was now.
I remembered 2-Star Parelli Professional Devanee Cardinal making me feel good about buying a horse at my age, reminding me: “You must realize, Denyse, that you are not the only good home for a horse.” Of course, I knew that, but felt that once you establish a relationship with a horse, as a matter of fact, with any animal, you should be responsible to pursue it for the animal’s life . I know that disease, family or financial considerations may change during the years, but as one grows older, the chances of not going all the way in the partnership is greater and I had to take that into account.
So I looked at the ranch’s website and from the descriptions, narrowed it down to three horses, including a 5-year-old buckskin Quarter horse named Sweet Indiana (or Indy).
The next day I called Devanee about the June 2011 clinic that I had registered for, as well as to tell her that I was now in the “buying” mode and would like to look at horses in June when I would go to the ranch for another 10 days. She spontaneously said to me, “Today I played and rode a horse and thought of you, saying to myself that if that horse is still at the ranch in June, that will be the horse for Denyse.”
I replied, “Would that by any chance be Sweet Indiana?”
“Yes,” she replied.
“Wow!”
“How did you know?”
“Well, I looked at your website and from the descriptions it seemed to me that we were cut from the same cloth,” I said. “I felt good when I read the Horsenality™, the experience of this horse, and somehow I had the feeling that we would fit well together. She’s by far my first choice; the others, I have questions to ask but I did not put much time into them as Indy seemed the one. I have a real good feeling about her.”
So we discussed Indy’s Horsenality, characteristics and experience. I also asked about the other horses I had looked at on the website and a few questions about their other horses, but we very rapidly agreed that Indy was on top of the list. I could, of course, look and try other horses once on the ranch, but I had to consider that it was only February, and Indy could be sold by June.
When I hung up the phone, I looked at last year’s pictures taken at the ranch, and I was surprised to to notice that many pictures of me taken by participants in the clinic had been interrupted by one particular horse that came to “plant” herself right in front of me. It was Indy!
I sent an e-mail to Devanee the next day just before calling her again about my possible purchase. She received the e-mail during our discussion and answered spontaneously, “Denyse, Indy already chose you last year. It’s quite evident, since there are so many pictures of her interfering with your play or rides, making sure that she did not go unnoticed.”
And without me even realizing it, Sweet Indiana sure had picked me out last year.




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OMGosh, what a great story! It gave me chills!
If this were a movie script, I would SO go and see it!
It’s almost spooky in a reincarnation sense,,which I don’t believe in but other spirit stuff I do. Almost like Indy already knew you.
I don’t know, I’m crazy but it IS a cool story.
Best wishes to you both on your new journey!
Ni Bambi
À sort of weird way to buy a horse. Something magic indeed
Denyse
such a emotional story. i am now 70 and live in canada . I sometimes questions why i have so many horses but everyone is special and when you can see the trust they have in you and far some of the new ones i got have come. it is so rewarding and certainly keeps you young
Great for you, a true inspiration
Denyse
Horses do keep is real young….
Amazing souls
Denyse
When I was 56 the universe put me and my little throw away horse together. She was my first horse, an unstarted, un halter trained pregnant mustang medicine hat pinto. I agreed to take her sight unseen. I had been doing Parelli for 4 years on begged and borrowed horses. I started her by myself using the Parelli principles and imprinted her foal and taught him the way to be a Parelli partner and started him at two and a half. I’m now 68 and still have and take care of, play with and ride my Lil’ Darlin’. Thank you universe and Pat and Linda Parelli. DON’ EVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAM, EVER!!!!! Steffy
Hi Steffy
What a poignant story
Thanks for sharing and again thanks to the Parelli,s
Denyse
What a great lesson for all of us! Sometimes what is to be has already been set into motion, we just have to be open. I’m glad that you made the decision to continue your Parelli journey and that you’ve found a nice partner to play with and that she has found you! Have fun – our best years really are ahead of us!
Hi Mary
What a fantastic program! Great learning!
Denyse
I love to hear about “mature women” living their horse dreams. I bought my first horse at 63. Thankfully we started PNH right away, so when, 4 years later, I had to think about finding a new partner due to my Peruvian developing DSLD, I had some idea of what to look for in a horse. I looked in SC, GA, FL and KY before finding a 9 year old Missouri Fox Trotter gelding in TN. At 67 I needed to grow my confidence and his, so we played with PNH ground work for almost a year. Now at 71, I and Bandit are heading to FL for a week of trail riding with fellow PNHers. Horses keep us young. By the way, my Peruvian is treated with kindness by Bandit, and Philipo is devoted to Bandit.
Hi Colleen
What an inspiration! Hope you had a great holiday with your horse.
Love to hear about us older woen still hanging I there…
Regards
Denyse
Thanks for sharing this inspirational true story; both for encouragement to us older PNH students (although, of course, that’s just chronological age!
) & for the magic of having a horse pick you before you even tune into the fact that it has! Love those stories of horses intuiting whom they should be partnered with!
At 62 and having horses all of my life it was very good to hear your story.I too have worried that my 3 yr old mightl be my last horse and could possibly outlive me. After reading your story I have to admit that I am not the only caring person out there. Gee, look at how my like minded PNH people there are. It is the greatest feeling to be picked by your horse and even to help a horse overcome past experiences and help them turn into a loving, playful, happy, trusting horse that they were born to be. Thanks so much for your story. Reminds me why I love PNH, the people in the PNH and all horses beyond reason.
Great share thanks. I am 62 this year, have my horse Florian, and grandsons pony, Stuart Little. Wouldn’t be without them, and Flo may well live out my riding days, so planning Liberty as the next stage of our development!
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story! She really wanted you!
Wonderful story! Wish you all the luck in the future.
I really enjoyed your story Denyse, also the picture with Indy in the background did make me smile – bless her she had chosen you long before you realized she was the horse for you. Horses are so amazing. I am sure that you will have an amazing journey and lots of fun times. Cheers Jules
You know Denyse my Arabian mare Sapphire picked me and she has been my best partner for 21 of her 22 years. I have her daughter Gem who is 9 this year and we just do not seem as bonded even though I raised her from birth. And, like you, I am 63 the end of this month and looking for a horse just like my lovely Sapphire. I know there must be one out there and will not settle for less. Thank you for posting this blog, knowing there are others out there like me.
What a neat story–When I was 60,I was concerned about starting out again with a youngster and I am to be 70 this year and the past 10 years with my young horses have been so rewarding– Using the 7 games and building on them has given me and my horses a wonderful relationship-if fact last year I started another young horse who now belongs to my neighbor and he is in my eyes a dream horse. They are all respectful and willing and quite frankly,I don’t think much about my age-its just a number-its my responsibility to take care of myself and believe me,its paid off!
Great story Denyse – I’m sure you will enjoy your journey together and Indy has a head start on most horses by having been able to influence the partnership from the start.
Your story was very encouraging to me, as I am 64 now, having increased weakness in my arms & legs from childhood polio, and horseback riding is the only exercise I can do that does not threaten to further impair my mobility. I have to decide if my horse is the right one for me!
I am 56 and, while I am not financially able to buy a horse right now due to extended unemployment and underemployment, there is no doubt in my mind that I am going to have another horse in my life. In fact, it is one of my 2012 resolutions that my life WILL come back together and I WILL have a good job and I WILL have a horse before the end of the year. And when I start looking for a horse, one of the primary characteristics (along with being minimum 16 hands to fit my tall, long-legged self
will be that it is a PNH horse.
This is a fabulous blog entry! That must have felt amazing, !to be picked by a horse! Love this story!
What a great story! I love how Indy chose you before you even realized it!
Denyse, thanks for sharing your wonderful story. It warmed my heart that all was put together the way it was to be & Indy knew. Much fun with your newest partner. Ann
What a great story! I’m 67 and still going strong with PNH and my 10 yr. old Arabian gelding. He’s a real challenge, but without him, I wouldn’t be as active physically or as excited about life and our accomplishments, large and small, on our Parelli journey together.
I concur. I am 64, RBE. My partner is a 7 yr. old, RBE, Missouri Fox Trotter gelding. PNH has given me a pathway to continue developing myself both physically and emotionally. What a ride!
What a ride indeed….and mostly KEEP ON A RIDING
Denyse